To You: From
Me
Good
Afternoon Ladies,
There
was a mixture of reasons I decided to write this message to you. The main
reason was having a conversation with a young woman and I was able to share
some valuable insight with her. This one is for you single mothers whether it
be by divorce or those of you just have a kid(s). Through multiple
conversations ladies what I noticed is many of you are awesome women, but some
haven’t gotten the man of their dreams. Many of you feel this way because of
the fact you have a kid(s). Well I’d like to take some time and shed some light
on that situation for you. Ladies first off understand it takes a good man to
step in and be the man he needs to be for a ready made family. Yes some guys
will pretend they are cool with it just to get next to you and fulfill the true
motive if you catch my drift. However that’s not the kind of man you need or
should want when it comes to this particular situation involving a kid(s). Many
of you just settle because you feel like well this is the best you can hope
for, but you can’t have that attitude. What you must understand is this is a serious
situation and a lot of variables will play into this situation. Let’s talk
about the man you need versus the man you want? The man you need will understand
that this situation is two-fold type of deal. You may be asking yourself what
is he talking about right? Well what I’m saying is this man will understand
that he not only has to fulfill you as a woman, but he also has to fulfill the
needs of that kid(s). Each relationship in his eyes will be that of
individuality which requires separate time and affection to build a solid
foundation that’s essential for everyone in that situation. His outlook should
be that of how he can make a positive impact on the kid(s) life so that he can
be an example to the kid(s) to help ensure their success. He should be a man
who can stand and be the head of the house in which the kid(s) understand the
rules of the house. He will also be the kind of man who supports you and your
kid(s) dreams in every possible way. You only reach the feeling of a family
when everyone is growing to be better as a unit and accomplishing things. He
should lead the family in assuring Christ is present in the home and church is
a cornerstone of life. We are losing too many kids to the streets because there
is no accountability in the home. The bible says train a child up in the way he
or she should go, but if you don’t train them how will they know. A mother and
father is the first love for a child of the opposite sex so it’s essential to
project the right message and example. Now on the flip side it’s going to take
a Real Woman to allow this kind of man in her life. You can’t have your mind on
let me see what I can get out of him, he is just someone of many who takes
pressure off me, or any of those crazy kind of thoughts. Never should the
phrase you aren’t their dad come across your lips if this man is doing all of
the above that I mentioned. Truth is love is produced from a respect, trust is
produced from respect, and family is kept together from the many fruit that
respect produces. Ladies a Ready-Made family is an immediate situation for any
guy no matter how great he is, but some will rise to the challenge based off
their feelings for the woman. You must at all times respect yourself and keep a
high level of respect and accountability on yourself to attract the right kind
of man. If you meet a good guy and he decides not to take that responsibility
don’t get upset it just means it could be a little overwhelming for him and he
is entitled to that. You just have to stay focused and make a decision not to
settle for anything less because some guy will come along. If he sees your
worth that you have placed on yourself then he just may take you up on a chance
at a relationship. You deserve a great man just as the woman with no kids and
in some cases you deserve it more then they do. Just be patient, prayerful,
mature and expect the gift of a great man who completes the “FAMILY”.
Quote:
Most of our issues in today’s society stem from the lack of building a good
home for our kid(s). We have failed to instill the essential personal
attributes that will enable a kid(s) to go out and be great decision makers. We
fail them through a lack of examples and lack of firm foundation. ~d.taylor
Website:
www.iamdrivenforsuccess.com
Phone:
951-262-2512 Ext. 80
Twitter:
@dtaylor0362
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