What’s The Deal
Ladies,
Its my pleasure to speak with
you this week and come to you on a real subject matter. This message was
written because it seems over the last couple weeks it has come up multiple
times. What’s the deal ladies? Really what are you guys looking for in a man
these days and what are you expecting from him? For those of you who have good
men who take care of their responsibilities, faithful to you, and being a real
man why is it so hard for you to do right by him? Is it really to that point
that you looking for someone to just take care of you or just someone to get
over on? Then you are crazy in love with those who do you wrong in every
imaginable way but that’s the one you give your loyalty and respect to! Im
sorry to be the bearer of bad news but there isn’t love around that in no way
just being real with you. Im asking you ladies whats the deal with this vicious
cycle that so many of you partake in and waste valuable time of your life before
you get it right or never do?! I hear so many women say how that want a good
man and have no idea what to do with it or how to obtain and keep one if they
had one. For those of you who did choose the right man why is it so hard for
you to give him what he gives you and to meet this man halfway. Ladies please
stop taking your good man for granted and slacking on business that you know
you should be handling because you can put that man in a situation where the
best thing you ever had just may walk out on you and whatever you guys may have
had at any given point. I don’t know what the issue is and I feel there are
many factors from lack of guidance, lack of examples, to much tv(which is just
entertainment not real life)
, to much music (which is
just entertainment not real life) and young mother still caught up in being young
instead of being mothers. I was talking with Miranda once and we had this convo
about the state of women and I told her jokingly that I should start a Grandma
Bootcamp and let the older women really show our younger woman how to get it in
like they use to and be women of substance and not women of status and
materialism. Some of you may read this and say wow he is being direct but I really
have to be when it comes to this topic because nothing will change if we keep
dancing around the issue. Nothing will change if I don’t make you think.
Nothing will change if you this message applies to you and it doesn’t hit you
in the chest… Think Think Think… Realize so much of what you do affects the
woman coming up from the way they act to the way they dress and you never know
whose watching you and wants to be like you. For those of you who have your
good man and your doing your part and you guys are making it happen I applaud
you that’s exactly how it should be and please continue just reach back and
show someone else how it should be done.
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ReplyDeleteOk WOW, there was a lot covered in this message, but I'm going to give my thoughts on all of it! So, to begin I feel as though a lot of women do not know what a "good" man is because they've never had those examples of what good is and how to appreciate it. Now, when this comes into play you have to look at our men. Often times a women is left by these bad examples of what a "good" man is and their sons. I'm sorry, but a woman cannot raise a man...therfore this vicious cycle begins again. You stated that you should start a grandmother bootcamp, well what about the grandmothers who took care of , loved, and were loyal to these not so "good" men who may have abused them mentally and emotionally... However, this "good" man took care of home, paid the bills, and was a good provider for his family. How can you start a grandmother program when some of these grandmothers themselves have not had a "good" man? They simply stuck it out and were the examples to these now adult women who do the same. Now these daughters have daughters of their own and are now the living breathing example of what a woman, mother, and wife is to the next generation when they themselves do not know how to love a good man when they've found one because that foundation was never laid for them as a child. Now, to many this is justification of a "good" man but in actuality it isn't. Not only is a good man an excellent provider, but he meets each and every need of his family emotionally, spiritually, physically, and financially.
(I apologize for my thoughts being a little everywhere)
Good Man -Psalm 1: 1-6 Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; ...
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Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity,
1 Timothy 5:8 ESV / 32 helpful votes
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
1 Timothy 6:11 ESV / 10 helpful votes
But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.
Hi melanine im glad to read your thoughts but here are a couple of verses to explain to you what a good man is.. Let me address as few things for you. Yes we have all dealt with things in our past that arent so glorious however lets not do the justification thing. At some point before your adult life we know right from wrong and at this point is when we should realize that whatever we have experienced that was wrong we need to develop a strong mind and not allow that in our lives and actively seek someone who represents the right thing. As a woman you should always have someone in your circle who is exactly that in the sense that you can learn from her and grow into new levels of your womanhood. If you didnt have the best example of what a man is then you should definelty find a real man based off the bible criteria not the worlds and learn from him so that you know what a man does. I dont consider a man who does all the negative things as you stated a real man i call them part time men so whenever you hear good man im referencing to what God has laid as foundation. As far as the grandma bootcamp yes i think it would be a great idea but im referring to those grandmas who took care of their household and kids. Sunday dinner wasnt in mcdonalds and it wasnt a matter of trying to use someone to get bills and etc paid.. Im talking faithful women of good who held their men "Accountable " for their actions by being strong women and letting her husband know that your not coming in this house with no any kind of mess... Thats the deal melanie we dont have that anymore i want to help develop that strong minded women who has standards, expectations, requirments, spiritual foundation, and "ACCOUNTABLITY" for the man in her life. Yes i do get that we as men have a lot to do with the cycle but there are a few blogs you need to go back in remember called perception, normal different accepted or expected, real talk, and maybe one or two more where i explain to the men how we have crippled our women because your absoulutely right if you don't have a representation of what a man is then you just dont know but im trying to help break that cycle as well but we each have to do our part as men and women.. We have a problem in our society in it we have to concentrate on the issue and solution and not the justification..
Hi guys,
ReplyDeleteI guess I should chime in here. I understand and can see both sides of this thing. I see where both men and women alike have dropped the ball. I also see where we as the people we are today, have to decide if we're going to keep it moving or if we will let our demons control who we are. I have decided that my character can not and will not be shaped by the things from my past. The hurts, the dissapointments, the relatives who I know dropped the ball. The ones who still today are living in the messes they brought upon themselves. As a young woman I had strong men in my life who were determined to inform me and guide me. I thank God for my dad & my grandfathers who kept me in line and who took the time to speak with me about how to break the cycle. Who taught me self respect and how I should and could demand to be treated as a woman. Becuase of that, I know what I want and I can't just settle. Sad to say that most women have had to put up with the wrong kind of men. Ladies, some of that is your own fault. My pastor still says to this day.....If you don't stand for something, you will fall for ANYTHING! This should apply to every area in your life. But especially with who you feel you may spend your life with. If you have no standards or don't hold him to certain requirements, guess what; you will get whatever you allow. A friend sent me a quote once, it said "DON'T BE A WOMAN THAT NEEDS A MAN....BE A WOMAN A MAN NEEDS!" Too many woman spend their time worrying about needing a man that they will take whatever the cat drags in. It needs to stop! Once we respect ourselves and set standards, men want have to ask us what the deal is...they will see us handling our business. They will have women who will handle the family. Women who will demand that a man be a man and treat her like the QUEEN she is. Women who will know their role and be about more that what's between her legs. All that is well and great but life still happens and we still have to deal with the daily challenges we may face. Our character should proceed us. Men should know what's up before he opens his mouth to us just by the way we carry ourselves. Point Blank.....I guess I had more to say than a little but it is what it is. Thanks!
Thanks for your insightt miranda.. And also understand treating you like a queen doesnt mean buying you in a sense cuz i will be honest know real man is looking for that but prefer substance and character and proverbs 31... As for the fellows this is what we have done to our women and caused so much confusion so i challenge you to stand up and take charge and be a man meets gods criteria and lets give these ladies something to be proud of and support.. Lets teach our daughters, neices, and cousins what to expect and accept from a man. Ladies get in there and get your hand wet and handle your business give him that woman who fulfills her role and can will meet him halfway.. Miranda always says a real man will take care of his household and his end then a real woman should take care of him and her household..
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