It's Your Life

It’s Your Life!

Hello Ladies,

Hope this reaches each of you in good health. Today I’d like to take the time to talk to you all about what I feel is an important issue. Simply put, I think we are dropping the ball as women. Yes, that’s right I said it. The future is looking bleak for us. We are failing to be the women we were meant to be. For example, there are basic issues we as women should handle. What’s wrong with taking care of your family, cooking and keeping everyone happy and healthy? As a woman, there is nothing wrong with handling our business. Our men can’t depend on us to stand beside them.  Yet we complain that they cheat, won’t pay the bills, keep the car running, cut the grass, look out for our well being and protect us. We wonder why life seemed to work out for grandma/grandpa, but it seems so tough for us. Yesterday’s women were not afraid to help their husband’s hold it down. I’m not saying take it back to the fifties so don’t get offended.

I see nothing wrong with having your man a hot meal when he wakes up or gets home. The same goes for taking care of the kids, and the house. If you work, then work together with your man. You are a team. Compromise with him, do whatever it takes to keep the drama out of your life. Put forth the effort to make your family work. You see, you have the power to make or break your family. I know you’re saying to yourself, I can’t handle it all, and I’m not the reason problems come up. No, I’m not saying if it breaks it’s your fault. Things happen that we do not understand. I am certain that if you do your part, everything will fall into place. Successful marriages work because both parties work at it together. They have each other’s backs, care for and complement each other.  If you have allowed God to choose your man, then I’m sure there are things he will most assuredly be willing to compromise about. Why not communicate with him just to see where you both can improve. You want change, become proactive. Handle your business. If he’s a real man, he will handle his.

I am definitely an independent woman, but you bet your bottom dollar that when God allows such a man in my life; he will understand and know his role and I will be more than happy to oblige, by handling mine. You want happiness? Start with yourself, and then teach it to your families. Remember what we teach our kids today will make their future families strong, or set them up for failure. Until next time, be blessed & hold it down for our futures.

A good life is when you assume nothing, do more, need less, smile often, dream big, laugh a lot and realize how blessed you are.

Miranda Jackson

Normal, Different, Accepted, or Expected ~ Mens Message

Normal, Different, Accepted, or Expected

Fellows,

            Its pleasure to speak with you guys again but this week I wanted to continue on the topic for the men in reference to the letter that was written for the ladies. You know what really irritates me fellows is the fact that I’ve always been told I was different from most men and not that it’s a bad thing because I don’t believe in fitting anyone’s stereotype of what I should be and I’m not saying this to blow my own horn. Im just saying fellows we must do better I mean we are letting our women down so much. They expect us to cheat, not want to pay bills, not lead the household, not being spiritually grounded, to stay out late hitting the clubs, to not take care of our responsibility with kids, and etc. Some how this how become the norm, its accepted, and even expected. Fellows we are going to have to change the way ladies see us because it develops a down spiral of confusion in what a man actually is and does. Most women now a days don’t have the first clue of what a man is and the truth of the matter is we have a lot to do with that mindset. Is it really that scary of an idea to be different from the rest of the pack? Is it that uncool to take care of your family, be faithful, live with purpose and represent God, to secure your family financial future, to show son and daughters what a man is, and is it that hard to be the leader god ordained you to be? Im just askin because it doesn’t make sense for any woman to be shocked to know that we do all the things a man should, meet the halfway on other things, and handle our business. It should be shocking that we can remain faithful to one woman. This world is full of illusions that distract us from being what we should be from the music to the tv is all detached representation of a realistic life. I was having a conversation with one of my closest friends last week and I was telling him its said that most men will spend all of their youthful years chasing a mirage of life that has them surrounded by beautiful women, pales of money, and materialism. They will be in their mid 30’s to 40’s before they realize you have wasted valuable time and now 10 to 20yrs of life that you cant get back. Im not saying rush and getting married and etc because trust me you need to make sure that is a good situation for you and both parties are willing to equally and willingly make sure each other is good and its not a one sided situation. However what I am saying is yes have fun and enjoy life but don’t get caught up in a myth. Make sure you handle you business and get things lined up correctly but also be representation of a real man and give real advice to younger men instead of this foolish things people say and mislead them. You never know whose watching you whether it be a young man or young woman your impact on them could make all the difference. Lets do something about our perception and no longer allow our women to be in shock just because they see a good man doing what he should and its so rare that it blows their minds because it shouldn’t instead what is seen as different should be the normal, what is accepted and expected.

P.S. For those of you who are handling your business and doing the right things I encourage you to continue to do so be that real man. Ladies if you have one of these men then make sure you do your part as well and look out for him just as he does you. What is given should be received in return. Anything good and worth having comes with making changes and sacrifices its been that way since the beginning of time. If you don’t believe what I’m saying then ask yourself this, “ Can you get into heaven by living anyway and doing anything” or “Do you have to give up some things and change the way in which you live?”

Quote: “Most men are very attached to the idea of being male, and usually experience a lot of fear and insecurity around the idea of being a man.” Andrew Cohen

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Duplicate vs Mimic ~ Men and Women Combined

Duplicate vs Mimic

just coming to the men and women that are in   tune too this page just a few words of encouragement a few weeks ago a page was posted about keeping it real and i realized that we don't know what real is and this is what hit me in my spirit" that we have too many young men and women duplicating the men and women in there lives, what am i saying ? that duplication is the problem it's OK to mimic but when you duplicate it is exactly the same as the original so let us really keep it real so we don't continue to do the same things ,because when i look at myself i see some things about me i don't like so why in the world would i want that to pass from me to my son and women why would you want that thing that you don't like about yourself to pass to your daughters so let us really keep it as real as possible" yes i heard the question ,what is wrong with me ? keep it real now, you and i both know we all need to change something" honestly some need change more than others so let's take a long look at ourselves and do just that "change, not so much for you or for me but for the next generation.  mimic: is a person who imitates mannerisms of others so when i allow my son to mimic mine good characteristics in addition to who he is then he has just became better than he would have been because he would be more mature at a younger age than i was ,so in doing this we stop the enemy in his tracks or at least he the enemy has lest room to work in his or her life so women and men let us be mindful of what we are doing and by doing this we all get better.                      we may be down but we are not out and if we LOVE ourselves and our children we all                       would attempt to do better for the betterment of future generations. if we don't be honest with ourselves then the strongholds continue to tightened so it's up to us to stop being selfish or self-centered and began too think of the little one that we are responsible for ,who the father is or who the mother is another story that doesn't change our responsible for a decision or choice we made so let us be the best mother or father we can be you might regret the decision of who it's by "but at least be thankful for the gift and go all out.

Doug Harris

Quote: Most of the luxuries and many of the so-called comforts of life are not only not indispensable, but positive hindrances to the elevation of mankind. Walden