Monday, April 30, 2012

Touchy



Touchy



Good Evening,

If you know me then you know by now that I title these messages based on what the message will reveal for the week. I want to talk about a very touchy, concealed, and very mind blowing topic. That topic is molestation in our homes, community, and culture. Truth is…this is not only a serious issue but a reality for so many women.  I had no idea, until recently, how many women have suffered from this type of sexual abuse and the impact it has on that woman. It’s about time that we stop sweeping in under the rug.  Often times the issue is avoided because the perpetrator may have been a family member, close friend, etc.. The point of the matter is…the behavior is wrong and needs to stop! For those of us who know the perpetrators (people doing this) we not only need to confront that person but get them some help. Molestation causes so much negative behavior in these women that it’s unreal. Let me bring this into prospective for you.  I want to bring it a little bit closer to home so that you really feel this impact. Imagine you know a woman who goes thru this at a very young age.  As she gets older, she begins to act out through sex, drugs, and insecurities.  She begins to feel unloved and alone.  Not only that, she has no respect for any man she comes across because she’s afraid.  Her image of a man is a negative reflection based on what she’s been thru. She goes out into this world feeling as though there is no one to talk to and no place to turn. She may even begin to develop a defensive attitude.  She is then quick to pop off even at the slightest mention of something that makes her flash back to this horrible moment of her life. Meanwhile, she is unable to develop into that strong minded woman. So, she’s looking for love and acceptance thru the wrong people and the wrong places. Now what has that sexual abuse left her with? Absolutely nothing but a lost identity.  It’s straight up sad, wrong and ridiculous for anyone to have to go thru this kind of hurt in their life. I’m saying, today we have to reach out and find a way to stop this. We should even go so far as to make sure we confront those who are committing these violent criminal acts. We have to reach out to those who have suffered.   Assist those who experience this abuse and offer guidance.  Be the outlet for the victim to talk. Show them love and a representation of a real man, and just be there for them. There are so many women hurting from this abuse, and my heart goes out to them in every way. We have to not only be there, but lead them to God and show them that their value is so much more then what they may be feeling at the moment.  We must reassure them that regardless of what happens, His love for them Never Changes. Some victims will be strong enough mentally to go to God.  However, even those individuals still need a helping hand in confronting this demon. 

Quote: Never sell your soul for anything of this world (money, materialism, etc..) for the price was paid thousands of years ago and it’s a debt that could only be paid by Him. ~d.taylor

I also have to attack this topic for the young boys and men who are victims. Sexual abuse also affects men and hinders their development emotionally as well as their sexuality. It seems to make our young men very aggressive and negative. Additionally, there is the feeling of not being accepted.  There is a sense of ridicule that will come from other men finding out that they are a victim of sexual abuse. In our society, this could be very devastating to a young male and his identity. At the end of the day, sexual molestation is still something that has to be addressed and handled properly. It takes a strong minded individual to overcome this type of anguish.  However, if they haven’t developed that mindset, then we must have people in place to help them overcome this terrible trauma. So much time and energy gets placed into other things that effect our generation in a negative way. Sadly, this monster is something that is continuously brush to the side. Sexual abuse has affected just as many lives (males and females) than anything else.  So, shouldn’t sexual abuse awareness, response, intervention, and recovery be put among the priority list to find a solution? Yes, I understand that we can’t stop a person from committing such terrible acts of violent, but we can bring it to the front line regardless of the relationship with the person.  Furthermore, we can offer support to the victim. I’m just saying, it’s something to think about all epidemics are fatal because I definitely consider this to be one.



Quote: Sometimes when you look back and things seem horrible that you went through but don’t overlook the beauty of your perseverance and the power of your will to become better. ~d.taylor




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