Sister To Sister (You Got That Good Good)
I thought I met mine a little while ago….and then….I woke up. Don’t make the same mistake I did….
So let me help out all my single ladies, all my single ladies (and men too). Are you still waiting patiently on“the one”? Have you met someone yet? Wait just a minute. Ignore those butterflies in your stomach for just a second and let me give you a few steps on how to do it the RIGHT way! The way I am about to describe may seem longer than usual but if you follow the instructions you will thank me later.
FRIENDS: First step you need to take with the person is just be their friend. So whatever you have already seen in your head whether it is the wedding cake or the 2 car garage; stop, press CTRL – ALT – DELETE! Control your thinking; alter your thoughts; and delete that fantasy out your head right now. You and that person need to take it slow and be JUST friends first. No friends with benefits. No matter how good your “stuff” may be if you give it up too soon it’s going to get old and then it’s on to the next one. You got that“good good” ??? Well there is someone not far with that finger lickin “great great” #BOOM Being just friends comes with so many other benefits. If he/she is a real friend then you should be able to call on this person if you just need a shoulder to lean on or even just a hug. You need someone to be your prayer partner? You wake up in the middle of the night and can’t sleep and you just need someone to talk to? That’s what friends are for.
DATING: Next step is dating. Dating only consists of hanging out from time to time. Going to dinner and a movie is a date. Just because you are dating this person doesn’t mean that you two are exclusive yet. The two of you just hang out and have fun. No sleepovers or staying over too late though. Everybody knows the only thing open after midnight other than IHOP is legs. Know what you can handle. Just enjoy each other’s company. Fun times and good laughs that will make the friendship stronger is what the dating process is for.
COURTSHIP: After you have gone out on a few dates something may be telling you that you want to take it a step further. Consult with God on this first because the flesh can tell you something different! If the Lord says it is okay then the next step after dating is Courtship. Courtin’ is what the old folks used to say. Now that you two are courting this means that you ARE in a relationship and have now become exclusive. This means that he/she is your boo now. So if you want to tag them in all of your Facebook pictures go ahead! But beware of the “Facebook thieves” —- those are the people that want to steal any type of happiness you have just because you go public with your relationship. Word of advice: STOP PUTTING ALL OF YOUR BUSINESS ON SOCIAL MEDIA SITES. Nobody really cares anyway. Blah! During the courtship stage you get to know the person even deeper STILL with all of your clothes on. “No ringy, no dingy”.
ENGAGEMENT: Next step engagement! If you have made it this far then somewhere during courtship you saw yourself with this person for the rest of your life. If you consulted God on this then during this step it is time to focus on premarital counseling. Never consider marrying a person until you truly get all up in their business. Premarital counseling is to let you know what you are REALLY getting yourself into. Yes during the engagement step you are supposed to be planning the wedding too but you don’t need to think about that until you have started counseling. Premarital counseling can sometimes save marriages before they even begin. You get to know more about the person and really get a glimpse into the future. During this step if you realize that marriage may not be the best option proceed back to step one and be just friends.
MARRIAGE: However, if you make it through the engagement process then the last step is marriage. If you make it to the alter God bless you. This is where I have to end because I can’t tell you a thing about marriage. I’m speaking to my single peeps. One thing I do know is that marriage takes a lot of commitment and prayer. But if you follow those steps I gave you IN ORDER then you should be on the right track. Take your time.
When that person is for you….they will be FOR YOU….and you will not have to convince them because they will know.
xoxo
TayLang
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