It's Your Life

It’s Your Life!

Hello Ladies,

Hope this reaches each of you in good health. Today I’d like to take the time to talk to you all about what I feel is an important issue. Simply put, I think we are dropping the ball as women. Yes, that’s right I said it. The future is looking bleak for us. We are failing to be the women we were meant to be. For example, there are basic issues we as women should handle. What’s wrong with taking care of your family, cooking and keeping everyone happy and healthy? As a woman, there is nothing wrong with handling our business. Our men can’t depend on us to stand beside them.  Yet we complain that they cheat, won’t pay the bills, keep the car running, cut the grass, look out for our well being and protect us. We wonder why life seemed to work out for grandma/grandpa, but it seems so tough for us. Yesterday’s women were not afraid to help their husband’s hold it down. I’m not saying take it back to the fifties so don’t get offended.

I see nothing wrong with having your man a hot meal when he wakes up or gets home. The same goes for taking care of the kids, and the house. If you work, then work together with your man. You are a team. Compromise with him, do whatever it takes to keep the drama out of your life. Put forth the effort to make your family work. You see, you have the power to make or break your family. I know you’re saying to yourself, I can’t handle it all, and I’m not the reason problems come up. No, I’m not saying if it breaks it’s your fault. Things happen that we do not understand. I am certain that if you do your part, everything will fall into place. Successful marriages work because both parties work at it together. They have each other’s backs, care for and complement each other.  If you have allowed God to choose your man, then I’m sure there are things he will most assuredly be willing to compromise about. Why not communicate with him just to see where you both can improve. You want change, become proactive. Handle your business. If he’s a real man, he will handle his.

I am definitely an independent woman, but you bet your bottom dollar that when God allows such a man in my life; he will understand and know his role and I will be more than happy to oblige, by handling mine. You want happiness? Start with yourself, and then teach it to your families. Remember what we teach our kids today will make their future families strong, or set them up for failure. Until next time, be blessed & hold it down for our futures.

A good life is when you assume nothing, do more, need less, smile often, dream big, laugh a lot and realize how blessed you are.

Miranda Jackson

Normal, Different, Accepted, or Expected ~ Mens Message

Normal, Different, Accepted, or Expected

Fellows,

            Its pleasure to speak with you guys again but this week I wanted to continue on the topic for the men in reference to the letter that was written for the ladies. You know what really irritates me fellows is the fact that I’ve always been told I was different from most men and not that it’s a bad thing because I don’t believe in fitting anyone’s stereotype of what I should be and I’m not saying this to blow my own horn. Im just saying fellows we must do better I mean we are letting our women down so much. They expect us to cheat, not want to pay bills, not lead the household, not being spiritually grounded, to stay out late hitting the clubs, to not take care of our responsibility with kids, and etc. Some how this how become the norm, its accepted, and even expected. Fellows we are going to have to change the way ladies see us because it develops a down spiral of confusion in what a man actually is and does. Most women now a days don’t have the first clue of what a man is and the truth of the matter is we have a lot to do with that mindset. Is it really that scary of an idea to be different from the rest of the pack? Is it that uncool to take care of your family, be faithful, live with purpose and represent God, to secure your family financial future, to show son and daughters what a man is, and is it that hard to be the leader god ordained you to be? Im just askin because it doesn’t make sense for any woman to be shocked to know that we do all the things a man should, meet the halfway on other things, and handle our business. It should be shocking that we can remain faithful to one woman. This world is full of illusions that distract us from being what we should be from the music to the tv is all detached representation of a realistic life. I was having a conversation with one of my closest friends last week and I was telling him its said that most men will spend all of their youthful years chasing a mirage of life that has them surrounded by beautiful women, pales of money, and materialism. They will be in their mid 30’s to 40’s before they realize you have wasted valuable time and now 10 to 20yrs of life that you cant get back. Im not saying rush and getting married and etc because trust me you need to make sure that is a good situation for you and both parties are willing to equally and willingly make sure each other is good and its not a one sided situation. However what I am saying is yes have fun and enjoy life but don’t get caught up in a myth. Make sure you handle you business and get things lined up correctly but also be representation of a real man and give real advice to younger men instead of this foolish things people say and mislead them. You never know whose watching you whether it be a young man or young woman your impact on them could make all the difference. Lets do something about our perception and no longer allow our women to be in shock just because they see a good man doing what he should and its so rare that it blows their minds because it shouldn’t instead what is seen as different should be the normal, what is accepted and expected.

P.S. For those of you who are handling your business and doing the right things I encourage you to continue to do so be that real man. Ladies if you have one of these men then make sure you do your part as well and look out for him just as he does you. What is given should be received in return. Anything good and worth having comes with making changes and sacrifices its been that way since the beginning of time. If you don’t believe what I’m saying then ask yourself this, “ Can you get into heaven by living anyway and doing anything” or “Do you have to give up some things and change the way in which you live?”

Quote: “Most men are very attached to the idea of being male, and usually experience a lot of fear and insecurity around the idea of being a man.” Andrew Cohen

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Duplicate vs Mimic ~ Men and Women Combined

Duplicate vs Mimic

just coming to the men and women that are in   tune too this page just a few words of encouragement a few weeks ago a page was posted about keeping it real and i realized that we don't know what real is and this is what hit me in my spirit" that we have too many young men and women duplicating the men and women in there lives, what am i saying ? that duplication is the problem it's OK to mimic but when you duplicate it is exactly the same as the original so let us really keep it real so we don't continue to do the same things ,because when i look at myself i see some things about me i don't like so why in the world would i want that to pass from me to my son and women why would you want that thing that you don't like about yourself to pass to your daughters so let us really keep it as real as possible" yes i heard the question ,what is wrong with me ? keep it real now, you and i both know we all need to change something" honestly some need change more than others so let's take a long look at ourselves and do just that "change, not so much for you or for me but for the next generation.  mimic: is a person who imitates mannerisms of others so when i allow my son to mimic mine good characteristics in addition to who he is then he has just became better than he would have been because he would be more mature at a younger age than i was ,so in doing this we stop the enemy in his tracks or at least he the enemy has lest room to work in his or her life so women and men let us be mindful of what we are doing and by doing this we all get better.                      we may be down but we are not out and if we LOVE ourselves and our children we all                       would attempt to do better for the betterment of future generations. if we don't be honest with ourselves then the strongholds continue to tightened so it's up to us to stop being selfish or self-centered and began too think of the little one that we are responsible for ,who the father is or who the mother is another story that doesn't change our responsible for a decision or choice we made so let us be the best mother or father we can be you might regret the decision of who it's by "but at least be thankful for the gift and go all out.

Doug Harris

Quote: Most of the luxuries and many of the so-called comforts of life are not only not indispensable, but positive hindrances to the elevation of mankind. Walden

Good Advice

Ladies here we go again and this week again I'm simply passing on some information to you guys. Again this isnt my work or words and I dont take credit for someone else work but i wanted to share this with you guys.

Good Advice



If a Man Wants You

By: Salma Rumman (View Profile)

This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.
Slower is better.
 
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve
then heck no, you can’t "be friends."
A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.


Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
 
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has
more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man.\
Oh Lord!  If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

 

Evolution_Men's Message

Evolution

Good evening fellows this week I don’t have a particular issue to address but I wanted to inspire you guys to be better. At the end of the day we all make mistakes in our lives and have our flaws but don’t let that stop you from evolving into what you should be. At the end of the day there will be people who will hold you back and situations that you may feel like you want to give up but cant because you may not be accepted or as cool but forget that I’ll take success in all areas of my life any day over situations. Fellows we have to begin to think this way and breed this into our lives and communities so that we can change our generation and the stereotypes that are placed upon us. From time to time you have to look in the mirror and see your potential even if all the odds are stacked against you and believe you can still be someone great and achieve great things. If you really thing about it everyone that has ever came from the bottom to the type the most memorable time was the grind in getting to the top. Our society today wants things to happen quickly and over night but anything that will last is built over time and not over night. If you have big dreams, growing spiritually, or whatever the case may be understand it’s all a process of growth with the addition of time. I was told once that even if God has great things in store for you it still has to happen within the season its due but until that time come you grow and evolve as a person. Don’t spend your time on chasing a mirage in this world of materialism because the most important thing is yourself and your development. I encourage you to grow in your spirituality and seek the path God has laid for you because he wants you to have life in abundance and can give it to you the right way all it takes is obedience. As you go to bed tonight and wake up in the morning day after day remember who holds the key to your future and stop making excuses for what you have not done. Instead go out and evolve into the man you should be and lend a hand to show someone else the way.

Quote: “Carpe Diem”

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Ladies Message- Women ought to marry up

Good evening ladies this is a email that was sent to me that i wanted to share with you guys. This is not a message I wrote but something from someone else but i felt a need to share it with you.

"A Woman's Heart Should Be So Hidden In Christ, That A Man Has To Seek Him Just To Find Her"~Max Lucado
Please take time to meditate on these words.To the sisters: be/stay strongTo the brothers: learn something
For those of us who are single or married -- be blessed by this word!  I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who can take care of them.
When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of the man is to take her to another place. When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My grandmother used to say, 'I can do bad all by myself'.
For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job. But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind of way. So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that he stands out above the crowd:1. Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.
2. Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out, your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.
3. Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
4. And most importantly, allow the Holy Ghost to take control. You don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's going to want to know who you are!

I know there's somebody reading this who has been chasing after the 'man of your dreams,' but God says, 'Just sit still and allow patience to have her perfect work through Me.'
Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and question your character. However, if he sees that you are dressed with quality, that you smell like you are somebody, that you look like you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart.
God woke me up in the middle of the night and said, 'The same thing that Naomi told Ruth to do is the same thing that I want them to do for me.'God is so sick of saints coming to Him trying to get a quickie and never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship and praise: 'I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!'
The God we serve, which is the God of love, demands and requires of us foreplay before He gives us what we need. In the book of Ruth, the mother-in-law tells Ruth, 'You have to wash.' John 15:3 reminds us, Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you. When you sit in the Gospel of Jesus Christ, you are taking a shower. When you hear the unadulterated Word of God, then the dirt and grime that you've accumulated all week long begins to wash off of you. Ask God to 'create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit.' Stand in the word. Then wait upon the Lord to renew your strength.
Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right.
With God All Things Are Possible

Exclusive Message For The Ladies

Exclusive Message

Ladies,

Good evening ladies I’m sorry to disturb you on a Wednesday evening but this a subject that was on my heart to attack and I wanted to get it out. Ladies here is the deal and ive heard this personally, in other people relationships, and even just an average conversation. However since no one wants to attack this subject I guess I will and put this thing in focus for you guys. Your probably wondering what I’m talking about right? Well it’s the phrase ladies you like to use towards your mate which goes,” Your not my daddy!” Some of you may have said it in another way but essentially the message is the same. Well ladies understand something for a real man who is really true to you the requirement for the way he should love you is very high. Now first you need to make sure you have the right kind of man who is walking what he talks.  Below I listed the biblical requirements of how a man should love you and what he should be willing to do.

 Ephesians 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless.

"(Ephesians 5:28-33) You care for your body daily to be as well fed and healthy as possible. You quickly take care of any needs or desires. Any sexual desire as a husband should be cared for with your wife. In the same way, care for your wife's needs and well being. Feel your wife's pain and illness and rejoice in her health as if it were your own life. A husband must see his wife's sexual desires and make supreme efforts to meet those needs too. Basically, her need or desire whether financial, physical, emotional or spiritual in your relationship must receive your full effort. Only in this way can you love her and provide for her just as well as you do for yourself.

Now that you know the requirements let me help you understand even further. When a man loves you ladies then he has a genuine concern for your well being from you flesh to your spirit. He wants the best for you and because of the love he has for you then he will offer you the gifts of inspiration, preparation, protection, consolation, and he will always have your best interest in mind as well as the relationship. This means ladies that when he tells you something then its not always him being controlling but just trying to look out for you and put you on what is going on around you and the relationship. If I’m required to give my life for you and give my all to you then don’t you understand I’m going to protect my investment of time and energy that I put into you?! Ladies love is an action and it makes you do something and if its real then you’ll be wrapped up in it at all times. No one is trying to raise anybody whose already an adult but we as men will try to get our woman’s perception in focus not because he is trying to be controlling but for the best interest you and the relationship. Which would you rather have someone who may say they love you but actions say other wise tell you something or someone you know without a shadow of doubt is unconditionally in love with you tell you something??? Umm yea I hope you chose the second one by far. Ladies think about this thing when you were a child did your father not tell you things that would help you advance in life? Yes im sure he did and you probably listened. Well he just didnt tell you things just because he was your father but it was because you needed to know the game. Well when your in a good relationship its no different the man will assume his role if he is a man and do that very same thing but you must understand what it is he’s doing. Love can be as simple as you want it to be or as hard as you make it to be but you must have you perception of things in line to understand. As a man there is nothing a good man would love more then to have a woman understand this concept and be able to realize what it is so that she doesn’t reject it. If you have a good man and he’s doing the things he should then be a reflection of him.

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Quote: “Woman was taken out of man; not out of his head to top him, nor out of his feet to be trampled underfoot; but out of his side to be equal to him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved